Got an email out of the blue from someone who is absolutely bonkers. I had put some distance between us about a month ago because everything was pointing towards a friendship that was very toxic and unfulfilling. The red flags went up so I stepped back. Let me say this, however, I did offer to help this person move into a new place but was ignored, so at that point I assumed we had said our last good-byes without really saying anything and I was o.k. with that. I knew I was going to have to remove myself from this friendship and better it go quietly into the ether than have a dragged out, finger pointing, name calling confrontation...or so I thought. Today, after about 30 days of silence, the crazy came crashing down in an email and wow, did it solidify my decision to step back. Step back? I'm locking the doors and shutting the curtains, lights are out and nobody is home!
Background to the present, abridged because otherwise we'd be here for days!
Ok - Ahi te va en inglés: I have known this woman for a very long time but we were never close until this year. She was having problems at home (with her boyfriend of 17 years) so I tried to help her. At the same time she was flirting with a guy from Los Angeles (E) that she met on Facebook and she told me she wanted to sleep with him. She is 38 years old and she began acting like a crazy 16 year old! One day she would tell me that she spent all day, in bed, crying over E (whom she had NEVER met in person or spoken to) and that she felt like she was losing her mind. The next day she would tell me that she was only kidding and that I shouldn't take it too seriously!! WHAT?? When one of my friends is hurting I try to help, I try to give them good advice, I fight for them. When she would tell me that E would insult her and put her down I would respond with "unfriend him", "you don't need a man that puts you down, you need a man that flatters you and is kind to you". Pero NO, aparentemente le encanta ser abusada! En fin, I got tired of trying to make her see how toxic E is so I told her NOT to talk to me about him anymore. Bueno. She was in the middle of moving from her house that she had bought with her ex-boyfriend (D) to an apartment and I told her to let me know if she needed help moving, she never answered me. A few days later I asked her when I could come and see her new place and she said that she hadn't moved in yet. Nothing followed for weeks and weeks. Then yesterday I get her crazy email that said:
"You really think this was all worth never speaking with a friend again? Seriously? I never did anything wrong to you, don't even answer this because you walked out on me when I most needed a friend."Claro que le contesté, pero su recoleccion sobre los hechos esta muy equivocada. There were about 5 emails that went back and forth, finally she said that she was having sex with E now and that was what she needed, that he is the best therapy for her! LOCA!! I just answered with "Whatever makes you happy." I thought that was the end of it but she sent me another accusatory text last night and there are 2 emails in my yahoo account that I haven't opened. I think she really has some mental issues, I know she's not eating well, she doesn't have a job, she's super paranoid…so she has all this time to focus on this and disrupt my life. He tomado precauciones en contra suya, ya he consultado con mis brujitas y tenemos un plan. I just want her to leave me alone!
